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Talking With Children About Tragedy
The following information is adapted from a very helpful resource by Fred Rogers Productions.
It can be very difficult to know what to say to anyone in times of tragedy or disaster. But when it comes to talking with children and young people about tragic events, it is our job to comfort them, make them feel safe and answer their questions in an age-appropriate way.
As adults, we don't always have the answers for why terrible things happen. But we do have the ability to reassure young people that we are here for them. Here are some tips on ways to talk with children about tragedy:
- "Who Will Take Care of Me?" -- Young people are naturally self-centered and need to be reassured that the adults in their lives are here to take care of them, especially during scary or uncertain times.
- Feeling More Secure -- Play is one of the important ways younger children deal with their concerns. In times of crisis, adults can help to redirect play into nurturing themes, such as preparing pretend meals for helpers.
- Turn Off Your Devices -- TV, computer, phone, tablet...as tragic events or disasters unfold, be intentional about turning these devices off and spending one-on-one time with a child.
In addition to the above Fred Rogers Productions resource, check out this NEXTpittsburgh story for more information on talking with children about tragedy. As tragic events or disasters unfold, it's important for all of us to keep in mind the words of Fred Rogers:
"When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping." To this day, especially in times of "disaster," I remember my mother's words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world."