Relationship building: Start with a mirror!

The next time you look in the mirror, think about a young person who you have a difficult relationship with. Imagine you are looking at them. What do they see? Are you smiling? Are your face and body posture relaxed? 

If you’re like most of us, the “problem kid” is the one who sees you frown, hears a stern tone of voice and gets the coolest reception. If you really want to make a difference for that child, one thing you can control is your response to them. 

How much effort does it take to smile? Or to say, “I’m glad you’re here today?” As adults, we have the opportunity to let youth know that we are here for them. Expressing care is the foundation of building trust with young people.

Check out this Ted Talk on “The Hidden Power of Smiling." And when you look in the mirror next time, practice a smile for the child who really needs one!