Coaching, Not Correction

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Often, we see youth make a mistake and we, as caring adults, want to intervene immediately with correction. We do this because we care, and we want to see them do better. Unfortunately, the correction doesn’t lead to changed behavior. Instead, let’s adopt a coaching approach using strategies like these shared by Youth Today:

• Be curious before you get corrective. There is always something underneath the behavior. A calm “What’s going on?” lowers defenses and opens the door to honesty. This also allows you to build trust, and trust creates relational growth.
• Ask before you answer. We can be too quick to give advice. Take a breath first. Ask questions like: What were you hoping would happen? What options did you see? What would you try differently next time?
• Create a plan for what is next together. Correction often ends with “Don’t do that again.” Coaching ends with “What’s your next step, and how can I help?” When young people help shape the plan, they take ownership of the outcome.

Using this approach will show young people that you care and that you see them. It will also help them problem-solve and be more motivated.

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