Ask. Listen. Encourage.

Ask. Listen. Encourage. These three words make up a simple, yet effective way of interacting with youth that can help to build a positive, supportive and productive relationship. By remembering to ask young people questions, listen to them and encourage them, you ensure that your interaction is purposeful, increases self-confidence, and shows that you care – all essential pieces of a meaningful and mentor-like relationship.

Wondering how to put the Ask. Listen. Encourage. method into practice? Here are some things you can do for each:

• Ask relevant and challenging questions and engage in back-and-forth dialogue.
• Listen to youth, let them speak and remember what they say -- be present in the moment.
• Don't feel like you have to fill every second of conversation.  A little silence can sometimes be a good thing as your young person collects his/her thoughts.
• Be supportive and empathetic.
• Encourage youth in their decision-making and actions without judgement.
   

For more information on this strategy, check out this guide from the Center for Youth Program Quality.